Failure is only option :

“Failure is not an option.” – someone in the movie Apollo 13.

When I was a kid, I had a shirt with that exact phrase on it. Thanks mom. You know, because I was a big fan of the film as a kid and I definitely didn’t want to be a failure when I “grew up,” I remember wearing it proudly and often meditating on those words. So much that do this day I’m scared to be a “failure.”

Can’t fail…never fail…failing is bad…it’s actually worse than bad…it’s not even an option…but what if I DO fail? I guess I’ll have to burn the shirt.

Now you can understand my train-wreck of a thought-process.

Fast forward 15 years. I’m in my 30′s. I’m a husband. A father of four. A brother. Follower of Jesus. Friend. Entrepreneur.

Do you think I’ve failed? There is no question that I have failed so many people, so many times in each of category above.

Is failure still not an option? I say it’s the only option. In fact, it’s a requirement for growth and forward motion and success. 

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Which Kid Are You?

January 15, 2013 — 2 Comments

Which Kid Are You? : Kenworth Reeves :

“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”Martin Luther King Jr.

Remember the bully in middle school? The bigger-than-average kid with a chip the size of the gymnasium on his shoulder? The one who picked on everybody? Yeah – that one.

When dealing with bullies of any kind, you always had certain types of kids. The kids who would give up any fight in them and just submit to the brut. You had the kids that would run the opposite direction when the ever caught sight of him. You had the kids that tried standing up to him, got slapped around and were subsequently made fun of for the rest of the year.

And then…you had those one or two kids who had enough and would knock the dude out. The funny thing was, even if the bully kept getting up, those kids would keep swinging like their mothers life was on the line. And eventually the bully stayed down. I always liked that kid.

Listen, being an artist or designer, entrepreneur or investor, pastor or teacher or anything else that takes guts can feel very similar. Because it’s hard and we might get the crap beat out of us along the way. But is what we do…what we give…what we create…worth it? 

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The Beautiful Mess We Call Life : Kenworth Reeves Jr :

“People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is light within.” - Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

Last night I stopped by the local grocery store to pick up a bottle of “bubbly” and some other last minute items we needed to  toast to the New Year. As I made conversation with the young lady at the register about 2012 and the dawn of a New Year, the undertones of the conversation became quite melancholy. It was obvious she didn’t have a great year. So bad that she was cringing at the thought of another like that with now misty eyes.

I was starting to hold up the line and create an uncomfortable situation so I paid for my groceries, walked out to my car, and drove home.

I know – terrible story. I agree! But that’s why I’m upset. I like good stories. And I believe that without conflict and sadness or even bad years, we wouldn’t grow and our stories would never be good ones. Conflict is essential to our development. 

Why couldn’t I have encouraged her? Why couldn’t I have said something witty to make her smile? Why couldn’t I have spoken truth and encouragement and life into her New Year?

Don’t know. Instead, I just left. I didn’t offer her anything but another cheap and generic “Happy New Year.” Shame on me.

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